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Stalking

According to New York State laws, a person is guilty of stalking when he or she intentionally, and for no legitimate purpose, engages in direct, repeated and unwanted attention, harassment, contact or any other course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear.
Stalking is a serious form of harassment and should not be taken lightly or ignored, as the incidents may escalate in the frequency, severity, and level of intrusion/discomfort. Unfortunately, in stalking cases, the victim - and not the stalker- may be forced to make changes in their behavior. It’s not fair, and most people don’t like hearing this. However, if you want to protect yourself and your loved ones, it may be necessary to make some temporary or long-term adjustments to prevent the stalker from threatening your privacy and safety.

Although you may feel compelled (or angered) enough to confront the stalker, this is usually counter-productive as it ultimately gives them what they want (contact with the victim) and potentially aggravates the problem and increases the likelihood of violence. It is important to seek help and utilize your resources to regain your sense of normalcy and maintain your right to feel safe

Examples of Stalking include, but not limited to the following:

  • Repeated, unwanted, intrusive, and frightening communications from the perpetrator by phone, mail, and/or email
  • Repeatedly leaving or sending victim unwanted items, presents, or flowers.
  • Following or laying in wait for the victim at places such as home, school, work, or recreation place
  • Making direct or indirect threats to harm the victim, the victim's children, relatives, friends, or pets
  • Damaging or threatening to damage the victim's property
  • Harassing victim via the internet, social networking sites, or other electronic means
  • Posting information or spreading rumors about the victim on the internet, in a public place, or by word of mouth
  • Obtaining personal information about the victim by accessing public records, using internet search services, hiring private investigators, going through the victim's garbage, following the victim, contacting victim's friends, family work, or neighbors, etc.

What should you do if you’ve been Stalked?

  • If you are in immediate danger, call 911!
  • Talk about your experiences with others you trust (family members, friends, room-mates, school counselor/advisor, etc.)
  • Deviate from your daily routine and avoid predictability.
  • Be careful about sharing your personal information.
  • Keep a log listing all stalking incidents (dates, times, places, what happened, witnesses, etc.)
  • Save everything you receive from the stalker (e.g. letters, emails, gifts, etc.).

Visit our Resources page for more information and resolutions.

▶ See the CUNY Policy on Sexual Misconduct.

▶ View and Download a PDF version of the CUNY Policy on Sexual Misconduct.

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